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Concessions of Dispossession


Yesterday my wife, as she often does, helped me understand my dilemma at work. She also posed how my dilemmas at work impose on our relationship. To address the former, she said, "the only time I can think of that is similar to yours is the Teaching Fellows summer, where I had much higher expectations than those around me. The only way that I could have made it work was to completely get on their level. It didn't happen." She proceeded to tell me how she feels like I have two wives: her and work.

I've been thinking a lot these days about seeing things in a different way. I, as all people, possess a way that I have acquired, and so think it right for the most part. Not that I can't learn from others, or others' ideas can't form mine, but, again for the most part, I am making concessions to others so that we can build something better together. But it is a "concession".

As I write, I wonder if that is such a bad thing. People being who they are, are full of self-possession. God works tediously to pull the "self" out of it, giving us true possession. Giving concession, to concede, is a necessary component of the dispossession we need to grow deeper in life. To grow into a life larger than our own. And ultimately, one subject to the Largest Life of all, giving shape to our possession. Giving us our very own place in the world.

Heavenly Father, inwardly I cry out, I am struggling. But in faith let me still lay footsteps in the ground of the territory You have given me. Not for my sake, but for the sake of Yours that You have given me.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

https://www.thespiritualscientist.com/2018/04/possessions-dispossess-possession-delivers/

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