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Making it Work


My wife continues to be frustrated by my commitment to work. She sees it more as addiction, at the very least over-commitment. We see things differently. But, that we sees things differently is a given. We are different people. The thing to think about is what next? Given that we think about things differently, how do we have shared experience... desirable shared experience?

I think that some of it is tied into my last post: concessions must be made. We have to compromise. I read something cool from the Gottman's that a couple would ask each other "how high does this rank for you?" Whoever had the higher number would get the accommodation. What a beautifully simple way to handle things.

Of course, it would require honesty and reflection to work. If one person always said 10, so that they always got their way, that would be dishonest. Or if it wasn't dishonest due to how compelled one person one felt to their own way, then reflection would hopefully mitigate the compulsion.

As I lay in my bed in the mornings before I officially wake up, I'm usually thinking about work. I've been thinking about how I can shift more of my thinking toward family life, my wife and daughter. Maybe it's because things are so broken at work that I go into fix-it mode. Whatever the case, if I don't proactively consider my wife and daughter more I may find myself having to go into an anxious fix-it mode at home.

Heavenly Father, do I have an unhealthy relationship with work, and with the people that I work with? Show me where I can make changes, or adjustments. Help me to live to do right and gain trust that way. I know of no other way.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

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